do you think things are controllabel or uncontrollable by your self?

In 1966, American psychologist Julian Rotter published a paper that introduced the concept known as locus of control. Human beings, according to Rotter, could be divided into two basic groups: those who believed their locus of control was within themselves, and those who see themselves as under the control of forces located outside themselves, such as luck, or fate, or other people whose will cannot be resisted. The first group, called internals, believe that they are the masters of their own destiny; they tend to be high-achievers, optimistic about their ability to improve their lot, and to discard bad habits. They believe in willpower and positive thinking. They are determined to control their own lives, for better or worse. Members of the second group are called externals. They look on themselves as victims of circumstances, the playthings of fate. If they go to bed drunk, light up a cigarette, and burn their house down, they explain the disaster as another instance of their bad luck, and not their poor judgment, much less their bad habits.

so if you were to ask, are you believing to internal locus of control or external? there is a big difference in believing to what your locus of control will be. consider the studies of these two psychologist, would you believe the internal locust of control and be successful and more happy or believed on the extrnal locust of control and blame anyone than yourself? LIFE IS HOW YOU MAKE IT.

The Objectively Balanced Way of Thinking

Human nature is hard to rise above, but unchecked without rising above it, it cannot be trusted. Plato and Aristotle as philosophers with tandem yet dualistic views were right and I can tell you why. Plato basically said human nature cannot be trusted period. But Aristotle, his main and best pupil knew that with great effort human nature can be risen above, but Plato countered with this one and it is a big one: How many people are willing to put out the effort to rise above their nature. Not too many, but I will say this, this is a reason that laziness is never a virtue, especially to anyone with consciousness. In the motion picture Apocalypse Now, we see what powerful consciousness combined with laziness can do to an environment, human nature, and a psyche as a personal reality. Now think of that same powerful consciousness used with “unnatural” virtue and discipline. That is the thing, normal human nature cannot be trusted, but with great effort, it can be risen above. Through objective and balanced checks, balances and thinking, it genuinely can be risen above. But it does take great effort.
How many people are willing to put super human effort into themselves to better themselves, let alone really read genuinely, many self help books from cover to cover genuinely taking some productive advice to better themselves? Or even taking the time thinking for themselves and applying all of the useful knowledge from these books and treatises productively? Not many. Application is easier than lying to yourself about how hard it is. But preferences inferred, reality indeed works this way: Perception makes you work around reality. Like the politician with their commercial saying how good they are compared to the next politician and do not judge except by what their commercial tells you. Above all, their commercials tell you be lazy and accept our truth. Dishonest control through self conflict, I know so. Because to genuinely think is to start to rise above human nature and following the crowd. You can begin to trust yourself when you really do think and act independently. Note: I said, you can begin to trust yourself when you really do think and act independently.

You can genuinely trust yourself when it is fully ingrained habit to think, act and generate independently and honestly without a single flinch of fear. Mahatma Gandhi knew this, that is what gave him knowledge, power and understanding of human nature fully and the understanding to genuinely control human nature without guns, armies or any of the traditional war methods used by modern human beings to create change or make war. I just revealed the genuine secret to Gandhi and his “passive resistance” and active establishment breaking. Like I said, it takes great effort to rise above human nature, and genuinely control yourself. This is the article that will have psychologists and politicians quaking in their boots, because of the revealing of their twisted and dishonest realism and ridiculous control techniques that do work. That is what makes them seem important, they do work. But when that effort is put forth to better yourself above human nature, they are ridiculous. For objectively balanced thinking is most important, not emotionally unbalanced, “easy” thinking.

why does the world isn't the way i want it?

if you want to know about the world, you first know yourself. same as, if you want to change someone, chage first yourself the way you want him/her to be changed. if you want to be loved, you must love yourself first. if you want real love, you should start to love real.respect yourself before you will be respected by others. see,everything starts from yourself. if you try to build a world from the way you wanted, start building it to yourself.

fear of failure?

life is series of experiment. if you dont experiment, you find nothing. actually, as ever been said by the wise,the only thing to regret is the regret of doing nothing.if failure comes, don't fret it. besides no one who has ever walk in this world not experiencing failure.

secret to a healthy mind and a healthy life

law of attraction. one of the greatest law of mind. if you think of stressful things, probably any of your system will get affected. so when you seek peace, make your mind peaceful. if you want to be happy, think and do the things that can make you happy. if you want to succeed, think and do the things that can make you successful. do not nourish negative thoughts or the thoughts that you don't like, if you do, they will grow and slowly swallow you.

articles,stories,

THE JOURNEY OF THE PETRIFIED JELLY

I was so confused again. Wondering what causes my confusion. Is it because my brain doesn’t working again or is it because there is something that causes my brain inactive? I couldn’t think of anything to say. I am struggling to grasp a word. I want my brain to be spontaneously active but every time I am so, I can hardly sleep as if the sleep function of my body was evading me. Is there something that I could do to solve this problem? I want an answer. Hoping that by continuing to speak this way would help me a lot to get close with the answer that I am searching. I am trying to be shrewd. There are so many elements that hinder me from my goal. Maybe I have forgotten how to use the language of the world again-- It is all about using the feelings or the senses that is universally similar to humans.

For a while, I want to share a story. This is the story of a guy who was and is searching for real love. The love that would be ideal, far from romanticism, and fantasy. The love that is realistic and applicable to the world created for us to learn, experience and also to suffer. The guy suffered many pain from love experience. But each and every pain that he’s been through gets him closer to the ingredient of what is real love for him. He’s been dedicated to pursue and search for the real love but there is just too many elements that keep him confuse and hinders him from it. He has become desperate, hopeless and helpless. There was a fresh memory from his past when he was fall in love with his girl friend. But he thinks he always got the wrong time to pursue courting her. The guy was of course aware that the girl was also in love with him or most probably she also has a feeling for him. The guy waited for the girl but the girl has someone else. But when the girl losses her someone else, the stupid guy has got someone too. Well, u can’t blame him because he thought he can never have the time in the world for her already. Since he has found out the she still got a chance, he waited for the right time to fix everything and get a perfect time to be with the girl. So the time that he was waiting has seemed in front of him already so he pursues what he believed to be right. He started courting the girl. But after a hasty run of the month, the girl evanesced form the guy’s existence. No matter how much the guy tried to bring the sun in the night, he was still hopeless. How pity that was. There came a time that only to find out the girl has again already with someone else. That’s naturally poignant I bet, only a numb person who can’t able feel the pain of the situation.

How terrible the guy has been through. But the guy is an optimistic one. Life is all about suffering anyway. Those who suffered a lot will be retaliated with glory. Those who suffered pain will have something to gain. Those who are open to challenge is open for knowledge. Those who are open to knowledge are open for growth. Those who welcome growth will be welcoming life. Those who welcome life will be welcoming happiness. Those who are genuinely happy will have an existence that can conquer death and welcome eternity.

philosophy

happiness in a nutshell

philosophy

When you change,

your situation changes.

It is a law.

We all fail. But it is not failing that hurts.

What hurt is knowing that

you didn't give your best.

Have the discipline to do

little things you dont like and you can spend your life

doing the big things you do like.(happy? I havent got time to be happy!)

The moment you get

too attached to things,

people...

you screw it up!

The challange of life

is to appreciate everything

and attached yourself to nothing.

On giving advice:

If people arent asking you,

they usually dont want

the information!

Next time you are upset,

remember its not so much

people who make you angry,

it's your thoughts about them.

Whatever thoughts

are causing you pain,

they are only thoughts.

You can change a thought.

The more emotional

you are about things,

the less control you have.

Life usually becomes more challanging,

but you embark on an outer journey

which starts the inner journey.

Where did we get the idea that

if we dont forgive people, they suffer?

For the world to treat you well,

you have to treat yourself well.

When we forgive ourselves,

we stop criticising other people.

Because we are already attracting

the learning experiences we need,

we often attract what we fear.

If you fear loneliness,

you’ll attract that.

If you fear embarassment,

you’ll fall on your face.

It’s life’s way of encouraging us to grow.

The only way to beat fear is to face it.

Pain is not your enemy.

Pain is your friend!

(If I had known today was going to be

so awful, I would have been happy yesterday!)

Courage is not the abscene of fear -

courage is acting in spite of fear.

People who do nothing

with their lives are just as scared

as people who take major risks.

The happiest people dont worry too much

about where life is fair or not.

They just get on with it.

If you want

more peace of mind,

stop labeling everything

that happens as

”good” or “bad”.

If you think the world

is against you, it is.

Blaming other people

doesnt work.

When you fight life,

life always wins.

The universe is always

nudging as with gentle signals.

When we miss the signals,

it nudges us with a

sledgehammer.

Growth is most painful

when we resist it.

If there is something

in your life you dont want

stop worrying about it

and stop talking about it.

The energy you put into it

keeps it alive.

Withdraw your energy

and it will likely go away.

Your missiOn in life

is not to be

without problems -

your mission

is to get excited.

What you

focus on expands …

so think about

what you want!

Detachment is a major reason

why rich people get richer.

They dont care so much -

they're not desperate.

Theres a big difference

between a poor persons attitude -

(We all know how serious this is…

–others were just laughing—)

To see things differently,

you dont need willpower,

self-confidence,

or brain surgery,

You just need the courage

to think the unfamiliar.

Your beliefs determine

your quality of life.

Your life will only work

when you take full responsibility

for your choices.

Life doesnt have to be

an endless struggle.

Let things flow.

We are not here

to be punished.

We are here

to be educated.

Simplify your life.

Quit doing things out of habit.

Your life is

a perfect reflection

of your beliefs.

When you change

your deepest beliefs

about the world,

your life changes

accordingly.

If peace of mind is your daily goal,

you will get better and better.

Your mission in life

is not to change the world.

Your mission is to change yourself.

There are no “outside” solutions,

only “inside” solutions.

You give your best

not because you need

to impress people.

You give your best because

thats the only way

to enjoy your life.

Fred says:

”I think like I do

because my life is a mess!”

No Fred, your life is a mess

because you think

like you do!

We are here to learn lessons,

and the world is our teacher.

When we fail to learn a lesson,

we get to take it again … and again!

Once we have learned the lesson,

we move on to the next one.

(And we never run out of lessons!)

God is never going to come down

from a cloud and say:

”You now have permission

to be successful!

You have to

give yourself

permission.

The question is always:

”What are you doing

with what you have?”

While the answer is “not much”,

nothing gets better.

The universe rewards effort,

not excuses.

Many of us became different people

in order to please everyone else.

Loving people means

giving them the freedom

to be who they choose to be

and where they choose to be.

Love is allowing people to be

in your life out of choice.

When have you made the

most important decision in your life?

When you were on your knees -

after disaster, after knock-backs,

when you have been kickedn the head.

Thats when we say to ourselves:

”Im sick of being broke,

sick of being kicked around.

Im tired of being mediocre.

Im going to do something.”

We learn our biggest lessons

when things get rough

Act as if every event has a purpose,

and your life will have a purpose.

Figure out why you needed

an experience, conquer it,

and you wont need it again.