Psychoanalysis

HUMAN CHARACTER AS A VITAL LIE

human behavior is basically dynamic. The root causes of all human behavior are hard to dig up. many psychologist are and were on the hunt in excavating all the roots of our diverse behavior. one of them found clues that leads to the trail and tried to uncover it. Earnest Becker, in his book the denial of death gives hint and explanation on the root cause of human characters.
He explained that most of our behavior is a vital lie. we tend to thwart away reality by covering our weakness and strength with a mask of fantasy. We are only evading the reality that we are supposedly seeking. we are afraid to stand alone on ourselves, we are afraid to take the risk to know ourselves because we might not be able accept the things that we can discover within us. In effect, we don't want to discover and test our capabilities to grow, to uncover the reality and become a real human of reality. we fear that our weakness and strength might swallow us,we might not be able to handle them. So in order to avoid the fear, we tend to formulate many defenses underlying fantasy, to act with a hoax to the world.
Becker also explained that we fear death and at the same time we fear life. During our childhood,we are confused to where ourselves laid. We don't know the world, our environment, the reason and purpose of our existence. Hence, since we don't know anything about us, we tend to stick to our parents because we are afraid and unsure to what to do. We believe that our parents help us to discover ourselves. But, like our parents' parents, they failed to show them reality. Then, our parents probably will fail to show us also the reality. We then become afraid to live because of the fear of the unknown world because sometimes the world that our parents introduced to us is different from the world that we are experiencing. Yet, we are also afraid to die, afraid to risk discovering our real self. We are afraid that taking an action is too dangerous and we might not be able to take its consequences, we might die on it. For example, you have done wrong action or you have sinned to someone and telling it to that someone might pronounce a peril to you. You are then formulating defenses, forging away the memory and the action that might suppose to give positive growth on you. Knowing that life and death are so fearsome, we tend to dress ourselves with grandiosity of lie and fantasy just to cope up with the real world.