do you think things are controllabel or uncontrollable by your self?

In 1966, American psychologist Julian Rotter published a paper that introduced the concept known as locus of control. Human beings, according to Rotter, could be divided into two basic groups: those who believed their locus of control was within themselves, and those who see themselves as under the control of forces located outside themselves, such as luck, or fate, or other people whose will cannot be resisted. The first group, called internals, believe that they are the masters of their own destiny; they tend to be high-achievers, optimistic about their ability to improve their lot, and to discard bad habits. They believe in willpower and positive thinking. They are determined to control their own lives, for better or worse. Members of the second group are called externals. They look on themselves as victims of circumstances, the playthings of fate. If they go to bed drunk, light up a cigarette, and burn their house down, they explain the disaster as another instance of their bad luck, and not their poor judgment, much less their bad habits.

so if you were to ask, are you believing to internal locus of control or external? there is a big difference in believing to what your locus of control will be. consider the studies of these two psychologist, would you believe the internal locust of control and be successful and more happy or believed on the extrnal locust of control and blame anyone than yourself? LIFE IS HOW YOU MAKE IT.

The Objectively Balanced Way of Thinking

Human nature is hard to rise above, but unchecked without rising above it, it cannot be trusted. Plato and Aristotle as philosophers with tandem yet dualistic views were right and I can tell you why. Plato basically said human nature cannot be trusted period. But Aristotle, his main and best pupil knew that with great effort human nature can be risen above, but Plato countered with this one and it is a big one: How many people are willing to put out the effort to rise above their nature. Not too many, but I will say this, this is a reason that laziness is never a virtue, especially to anyone with consciousness. In the motion picture Apocalypse Now, we see what powerful consciousness combined with laziness can do to an environment, human nature, and a psyche as a personal reality. Now think of that same powerful consciousness used with “unnatural” virtue and discipline. That is the thing, normal human nature cannot be trusted, but with great effort, it can be risen above. Through objective and balanced checks, balances and thinking, it genuinely can be risen above. But it does take great effort.
How many people are willing to put super human effort into themselves to better themselves, let alone really read genuinely, many self help books from cover to cover genuinely taking some productive advice to better themselves? Or even taking the time thinking for themselves and applying all of the useful knowledge from these books and treatises productively? Not many. Application is easier than lying to yourself about how hard it is. But preferences inferred, reality indeed works this way: Perception makes you work around reality. Like the politician with their commercial saying how good they are compared to the next politician and do not judge except by what their commercial tells you. Above all, their commercials tell you be lazy and accept our truth. Dishonest control through self conflict, I know so. Because to genuinely think is to start to rise above human nature and following the crowd. You can begin to trust yourself when you really do think and act independently. Note: I said, you can begin to trust yourself when you really do think and act independently.

You can genuinely trust yourself when it is fully ingrained habit to think, act and generate independently and honestly without a single flinch of fear. Mahatma Gandhi knew this, that is what gave him knowledge, power and understanding of human nature fully and the understanding to genuinely control human nature without guns, armies or any of the traditional war methods used by modern human beings to create change or make war. I just revealed the genuine secret to Gandhi and his “passive resistance” and active establishment breaking. Like I said, it takes great effort to rise above human nature, and genuinely control yourself. This is the article that will have psychologists and politicians quaking in their boots, because of the revealing of their twisted and dishonest realism and ridiculous control techniques that do work. That is what makes them seem important, they do work. But when that effort is put forth to better yourself above human nature, they are ridiculous. For objectively balanced thinking is most important, not emotionally unbalanced, “easy” thinking.

why does the world isn't the way i want it?

if you want to know about the world, you first know yourself. same as, if you want to change someone, chage first yourself the way you want him/her to be changed. if you want to be loved, you must love yourself first. if you want real love, you should start to love real.respect yourself before you will be respected by others. see,everything starts from yourself. if you try to build a world from the way you wanted, start building it to yourself.

fear of failure?

life is series of experiment. if you dont experiment, you find nothing. actually, as ever been said by the wise,the only thing to regret is the regret of doing nothing.if failure comes, don't fret it. besides no one who has ever walk in this world not experiencing failure.

secret to a healthy mind and a healthy life

law of attraction. one of the greatest law of mind. if you think of stressful things, probably any of your system will get affected. so when you seek peace, make your mind peaceful. if you want to be happy, think and do the things that can make you happy. if you want to succeed, think and do the things that can make you successful. do not nourish negative thoughts or the thoughts that you don't like, if you do, they will grow and slowly swallow you.